Depression symptoms in postpartum dads cause distress in new families. There are many signs of depression during the postpartum period.
Newborns do not sleep (usually) so count yourself lucky if your baby sleeps through the night. New dads experience broken-up sleep due to tending to their baby’s nighttime needs.
Sleep disruption can worsen symptoms of depression. Sleep is vital to humans. We need our sleep in order to heal our bodies, consolidate learning, and for mood regulation.
New dads may sleep too much or too little. The lack of sleep causes other symptoms of depression such as irritability, low energy, and difficulty concentrating.
My first baby did not sleep well for the first two years of her life. I noticed I could barely concentrate when reading a book and I often fell asleep during the day at the drop of a hat.
I fell asleep in a pool noodle float one time! I napped every day and my husband did mornings until I was able to get sufficient sleep.
Most doctors will prescribe medication to help with sleep and that alone can ward off depression in new dads.
Listlessness/Disinterest in the baby
New dads with symptoms of depression may interact with their babies less. They seem in a daze and disconnected from their babies.
They may say they feel “numb.”
Family members may notice them going through the motions of parenting but no moments of joy or intimacy with the baby.
*If you have concerns about the safety of your baby with dad, you need to get dad help from a trained mental health professional asap.
New dads with depression symptoms may eat too little or too much. Dads are more likely to drink too much to combat symptoms of depression.
Anhedonia means a loss of pleasure in things that once brought you enjoyment. For instance, a new dad that loved building model airplanes before the baby arrived may not want to even see a new kit.
Suicidal thoughts or thoughts of harming yourself or your baby are signs of depression. If a new dad is not disturbed by these thoughts that may indicate Postpartum Psychosis and he needs to be seen immediately. Dads may also envision hurting their babies, again this is an emergency and needs to be evaluated by a psychiatrist.
Postpartum Psychosis is a mental health emergency.
New dads that are distressed by these type of thoughts may feel guilty for having them. They may worry that if they share them with an outsider Child Protective Services (CPS) may be alerted and their baby will be taken away from them.
I see suicidal thoughts as an expression of depression. I take them seriously but I would never act on them (calling CPS) without further investigation.
If your partner shared these kinds of thoughts with you it is a sign he needs more support. You need to encourage him to contact a mental health professional to provide that support for her new family.
I have highlighted common depression symptoms in postpartum dads. Dads with partners that have been diagnosed with a mood disorder such as Bipolar Disorder I are more likely to experience postpartum depression symptoms.
Help is out there and getting help is one of the best decisions you can make for your new family.